Okay, let's start by saying I am NOT flexible. This is one thing I know for sure about myself. It is not something I like and I am frequently stretched in this area. This week has been particularly trying.
Trevin is getting smarter. He likes to play "games" now. These games are fun for him, not for mom and dad. Afternoon naptime has become a mad crying session that lasts up to 1 hour. Bedtime has been the same. Often times he will eventually fall asleep, but lately, naptimes have been short and not very reliable as time I get for myself. Let me tell you that I am a planner, and this is where flexibility comes into the picture. This current situation is not working!
This is me - I have created a weekly schedule for myself. Each day consists of reading my Bible (which I am failing miserably at), working out (which I'm okay about), a household chore, and a load of laundry. One day a week is designated as my "errand" day, when I grocery shop and go out to Vancouver to get things done. I like to get things done. When I look at my schedule, I get so excited when I accomplish everything on it for the day, or at least a majority of what I set out to do. Here's the problem - when Trevin doesn't nap, mommy doesn't get anything done. Because when Trevin doesn't take his nap, he's mad and fussy and won't be left to entertain himself.
This is me - When Trevin started eating solids, I figured out an eating schedule in my head, along with a nursing schedule and a nap schedule. Here's the problem - when Trevin doesn't nap and goes to bed late, this schedule does not work. We can't Trevin follow my schedule?! :)
(If I sound a tad bit frustrated, I am. As I write this, Trevin is crying his eyes out and has been for the last hour - with the exception of the last 5 minutes, when I went in to comfort him. Yes, it's 11:15 pm and he usually goes to bed by 8:00.)
So here it is...I need structure and have not had much in the last week. I don't know what exactly it is. Trevin could be getting smarter and playing a game (I hope not), or he's constipated (very possible with the new foods he's eating), or he's teething (wow, this sucks). At any rate, I hope we get through the phase soon!
I'll admit, I am crazy about structure, I like plans, and I follow rules to a 'T.' This is probably making this situation more difficult than it needs to be. I know God is working on me through all of this and it is certainly not a trial that only I have faced. But man, I didn't even pray for patience! What's going on?
(Quick praise...no more crying from Trevin's room! Yeah!)
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I'm sorry, Audrey. It is super frustrating trying to get a baby on a schedule. I feel your pain. I think your post title is perfect. You already know you need to be flexible, now it's just a matter of putting that into practice! Hey - you should sing to him, maybe he just wants to hear a silly song! I actually did make up a song for Ryan when he was a baby (and one for Casey & Emily too). It goes like this: "Oh Mr. Ryan, why are you cryin'? Don't you know that I'm really really tryin'. Just to make you a-smilin' smilin' smilin'. And you know that I'm not lyin' it's true! I love you!"
hang in there audrey. you are doing such a great job. it's hard, but just remember that we can't control everything...no matter how hard us planners try! trevin is so blessed to have you for a mommy. allow yourself to let go (just even every once and a while) and see what happens. much love to the miller 3.
Hey Audrey! I just saw that you have a blog, that's so fun.
I'm sorry that you're struggling for structure. Until my kids hit about 18 months, I felt like everytime I'd get the perfect routine nailed, they'd pop into another stage that required yet another new routine. (new food, cutting down naps...etc) I felt like they kind of became humans at 18 months.
One bed time trick that worked for us with Jack at 9 months was, Putting him to bed (crying) and us just sitting next to the crib in the chair while he cried himself to sleep. The first time it took about 45 mintues. Occasionally reassuring him he was okay and it was time to sleep. The next night it was 30 minutes, the next 15, and the next 5, then...no crying! Matt started it, and likes to call himself "the baby whisperer" now. Hope you get your routine back, it sounds awesome!
Hey Audrey...glad I found you in blogland! Hang in there! I can totally relate..I'm an anal planner myself, even after two kids I try to kid myself into thinking I still have control over things. thanks for your help at Mom's today!
Sounds like Connor...He just popped his first tooth through so the teething guess might be right. Hang in there!
Hi! I don't know if you remember me but I am pretty sure you remember my husband Josh, Jessica's brother. She sent me your blogg site.
Just wanted to say that your little one is too cute! How old is he?
Hi. You don't know me, I randomly found your blog...I think it's linked to a friend's blog. I read this post and could relate so well. I have two girls with one more on the way and I still have a hard time being flexible. It does get better slowly, so good luck.
-Sheelagh
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